People are a little like cats: we always land on our feet. We go through hard times but at some point we reach closure and move on. Even when we live through hard times there are days, and moments where we will smile and laugh. So why is it so scary to act on feelings and desires? And why do we debate over simple decisions until they become risky and terrifying?

I always knew my ex and I couldn't sustain our relationship, but I couldn't face up to that and in the end he left me. Some things in life are inevitable. It's when we don't admit the inevitable and fight against it that the real problems occur. When something is meant to happen in our lives avoiding it can lead to missed opportunities. The problem with opportunities is that they present themselves at random and don't wait for you to be ready; this is also what makes them more appealing.

It is not always good to have a sense of urgency about decision making, as people we can become so intent on the conclusion or our decision that we miss the finer details of the here and now. Balance is essential in decision making. Perhaps by defining what things are really important to us we could decide what areas of our lives to take risks in. As opposed to plunging in at the deep-end and taking risks with everything as this article may be suggesting. At times I have believed that it's ok to be risky with my love life as long as my working life remains intact. This works to an extent but it's important to remember just how much attraction can affect self-esteem and our egos. The ego boost we receive from being successful is quite different from the one we get from relationships.

I was recently told that being aloof is a major component of being attractive to the person you desire. Aloof is defined as "not friendly; cool and distant" in the Oxford Dictionary. Aloofness is far from being risky, as there is no vulnerability in being "cool and distant". The vulnerable state risk-taking often leaves us in is what we fear the most and what holds us back. Acting aloof will sustain most people through the initial phases of dating so you don't end up with a bruised ego, but there has to come a time when you take the risk and open up a little more.

The key element of successful risk-taking could be timing, assessing when you feel your strongest to do something daring. In relationships timing is also crucial, and pacing when you take the risks of opening up can leave you feeling not quite as vulnerable as if you'd done it at the wrong time. Similarly in working life to get noticed amongst the masses you have to differentiate yourself somehow, and being confident and daring can be appealing attributes.

To return to the original point that we will eventually land on our feet, it must be noted that this will not necessarily be an easy landing. Reaching that eventuality can sometimes be a long and arduous road which provides more twists and turns than we had prepared for. It seems once in a while it could be valuable to act more and think less, when the answer is quite close to obvious. From time to time it's amazing to be fearless and risky, it can nullify the feeling of vulnerability risk-taking usually induces quite considerably. 

So for anybody whose sat at home procrastinating on things they have deemed risky go for it! One things certain if you can't stop weighing up the pros and cons of different scenarios there's something you want from that situation. If you think you don't know what you want take the risky option every time; because if you don't take it someone else might take it for you. Risks wouldn't circulate around our heads if there wasn't some appeal in them!

 

 

Nikki Turner